Let’s talk about Sex, baby.
Some of you may recall the famous 90’s song by the rap group Salt N’ Peppa. While Salt N’ Peppa’s song did a wonderful job conveying their desire to talk about sex they didn’t really convey why it would be important to discuss such a topic (that might have gone slightly over the three minutes pop songs are limited too).
So, this post will attempt to explore briefly why talking about sex matters.
Recently Youssef Alimam, a film student, decided to make a short documentary on the topic of sex.The documentary (found here) interviews several young Egyptians about their experiences with sex and sex communication. While some say their parents talked about it indirectly or confirm they gained something from a teacher or friends; others say that their parents or sex education teacher refused to talk about the subject.
Libido also follows the progress of a fictitious Egyptian meant to represent Egyptian youth, Mazen. Mazen, like many youth in Egypt, is unable to educate himself on sex and sexuality through the means of his parents or educators. Instead, the video says, he learns in more “unconventional” ways. That is to say: porn.
While Mazen learned about sex through porn, I do have to wonder how and if internet access is changing youth’s understanding of sex. There are truly some great educational resources on the internet that can help young people lead healthy sexual relationships; however, that’s a topic for another post.
So why is Libido so important…
According to a UN report, around 99% of women in Egypt have been sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Those are some pretty heady statistics. A recent study revealed Egypt to be the “worst Arab country for women”. The study, which interviewed 330 gender experts from 22 countries a series of questions related to women’s rights and women’s advancement and highlighted Egypt’s high rates of sexual violence against women.
Is this a result of the taboo of sex in Egypt? Are certain sexual acts and not others? One friend scoffingly replied “No, I don’t care about that.”, another’s face became quite red when describing the word “a7hi”. A third looked visibly uncomfortable with the notion of a homosexual relationship. Furthermore, many women of Egypt criticized the survey which assessed their country to be the worst. Still, many of my friends and women’s rights activists in Egypt acknowledge the importance of preventing this violence– and, I would argue, Mr. Alimam’s video on how the taboo of sex negatively impacts Egyptian youth is part of that prevention. Though Mr. Alimam’s documentary could best be described as a case study, the reactions to the video on the internet and via recognition through awards suggests that this is an important topic to Egyptian youth and one worth exploring.
As it happens, it seems those who posted about the film agree. Though at times I had trouble connecting with the humor behind Adham’s character (much preferring the real life interviews), others laughed and responded with phrases like “so true”.
Next post: We will delve a bit more into sexual violence in Egypt and continue the talk on problems in sex education.
Author’s Note: Being that this blog is aimed primarily at Egypt, I would like to remind the audience that my lack of content on other nations’ sexual culture is not because I think they lack such problems.